Have you ever been really mad at yourself for making a decision that you secretly knew wasn't going to deliver the magical improvement you'd hoped it would?
Perhaps you enrolled in a disappointing class, accepted a job offer that was all wrong for you, or developed a serious case of "food envy" at your favorite restaurant? And all because you or someone else suggested that it was time to try something new?What's worse is: YOU KNEW YOU WERE GOING TO BE DISAPPOINTED the very second you got on board with it.
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Originally written in September 2016, this piece served as a reflection on National Suicide Prevention Month and an exploration of how we might keep the conversation going throughout the year.
Now, in the wake of the deaths by suicide of beloved Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade, I feel called to share again what it's like to survive the death of a loved one who has ended his or her own life.
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We've all been there. The blank page, the empty canvas, the colored macaroni noodles just waiting there to be pasted onto your picture frame. Then zero action. In a very Seinfeld kind of way, this article will be about absolutely nothing (think: puffy shirts, close talkers and man hands).
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The other day I was at the gym, about to take a class, just biding my time on the treadmill until it was time to line up and find my space on the floor of the yoga studio.
As I waited, I overheard a fellow gym member approach the person on the treadmill next to mine and say to her friend, "You going to yoga? You know, that instructor's kid is SUCH a bully."
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Do any of these phrases apply to you? I'm independent to the core. I can manage. I'm always striving. I can make ends meet. I don’t need the help. I should be able to handle this.
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The concept of rewriting your life story has been the focus of magazines, talk shows, self-help forums, and the therapy community for decades now. Rooted in narrative therapy, it's one of my favorite approaches to self-improvement, yet I think there are some automatic, subconscious thoughts that pop up for people when the topic comes up.
In this article, we'll take a look at four common beliefs that often get in the way before real progress can take place. With each, I'll give some jumping off points that may just encourage you to challenge some of your blocking beliefs about your ability to rewrite your own story.
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Connection is what we're all here for: connection to our friends, our partners, our family, our children, and that ever elusive self that is sitting here reading this blog post.When connection is ruptured it can be the most painful experience we have ever known, showing up as grief and loss over illness, death, divorce, or some other end to relationship or way of being. In these times, we know with certainty what has been lost. Other ruptures can be quite subtle, slowly ushering in a sense of all-over discomfort, like a low-grade fever— you know, that something's-just-not-right kind of feeling?
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You're a busy parent whose finish line is the kiddos' bedtime, and your reward is a couple episodes of the latest Netflix series, and then lights out. You'd love to have time to be more creative and reflective in your daily life. But: time, energy, space. Journaling's not your thing. I get it.
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